A great philosopher once said “just be what you are and don’t care a bit about the world, then you will feel a tremendous relaxation and a deep peace within your heart.” This is what Zen people call the Original Face- relaxed, without tension, without pretensions, and without hypocrisies. Sadly, I can only imagine how liberating this must feel for I’ve yet to free myself from the opinions of others. I have a secret and admitting is slightly EMBARRASSING, but…
I have a secret obsession with Facebook likes. I depend on people’s opinions. I have depended on people’s opinions so much that I lost all track of my inner sense, my intuition, my sense of self. Though I may be one of very few people to admit it, this childish need for instant feedback is actually becoming a generational defining trait. This is a generation that is all about numbers; how many likes, how many friends, how many connections, how many followers. Numbers make people feel that they must be right, they cannot be wrong if others are with them. What then when you are alone, how will you know if you are valid?
External validation is good, sometimes a little recognition of one’s work goes a long way, only when we allow it to be our primary source of endorsement does it become a problem. Nothing eats away at your self-confidence and ability to just be yourself than being wildly influenced by people’s opinions. But..what if we start looking inward for approval and learn to trust our self again?
This is what recovering our inner sense is all about, feeling more and thinking less. Listen to your intuition, trust it and it will slowly become stronger. Albert Einstein once said that the only real valuable thing is intuition. I think what he meant by this is that there is a spiritual reality to ourselves that isn’t available to the 5 scientifically valid means of perceiving reality- sight, hearing, smell, touch, and taste.
Building self-trust comes through developing our 6th sense, intuition. Then follows confidence overhaul- total freedom from outside opinions. Luckily, we do not have to become zen masters to gain a little intuitiveness, a few changes in perception might just do. The experts suggest learning to feel things and think things in a calm matter. Intuition is developed when you reflect in self-thought so take time daily to sit quietly and let go of thoughts that cause stress and worry.
One of my favorite ways is to lay down in bed, focus on the space between the eyebrows, the third eye, and visualize the color indigo, which is associated with spiritual attainment, self-mastery and wisdom. This area is associated with psychic energies, focusing on it while meditating can help remove confusion, indecision, and increase the ability to see clearly. If your experience is anything like mine, you’ll drift into sleep and wake up feeling fully rested and energized. I urge everyone to try it at least once, if not more intuitive at the very least you’ll feel super relaxed.
Let me know how it goes, leave a comment… Remember feel more, think less!